The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory
This morning, I woke up early to sit outside and enjoy a cup of coffee before starting my day. I thought of the varied conversations that I’d had over recent weeks and categorically decided which I could participate in more and which could use less participation on my part. Immediately, I thought of the Ten Axioms of Choice Theory by Dr. W. Glasser or more specifically, the first five:
1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
2. All we can give another person is information.
3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
In considering this information along with the importance of self-awareness, it stands to reason that we should carefully attend to and be discerning about the information we share and that we receive from others. The information we share can contribute to psychological distress in the form of anxiety and ultimately depression. Also, in striving to be self-aware, it should also be understood, ALL all we have in any moment is NOW. We cannot control the manifestations of five minutes ago and those rapidly approaching five minutes from now are also determined by the three-hundred and sixty degrees of perspectives held by others in their aspirations to operate at the height of self-awareness. To honestly consider the immediate future in this manner, we should know that we haven’t any control over that either. Everything hinges on our knowing that we are directly and ultimately responsible for ourselves. Much can be fixed and/or avoided by simply embracing this fact.
…axiom number five, speaks for itself.