The Relationship Diet


Relationship1. dependence, alliance, kinship. 2. affinity, consanguinity. Relationship, kinship refer to connection with others by blood or by marriage. Relationship can be applied to connection either by birth or by marriage: relationship to a ruling family. Kinship generally denotes common descent and implies a more intimate connection than relationship: the ties and obligations of kinship.


Diet – A prescribed course of eating and drinking in which the amount and kind of food, as well as the times at which it is to be taken, are regulated for therapeutic purposes. A specific allowance or selection of food, especially prescribed to control weight or in disorders in which certain foods are contraindicated: a. salt-free diet; a. 900-calorie diet b. (as modifier): a diet bread.

In our current society there is never an occasion whereas an individual is not on a diet of some sort. Either the diet is specifically correlated to an expected outcome or it is an indirect method of dieting that directly stems from a chosen lifestyle.     More often than not, our diets are chosen by the lives we lead and the decisions we make in relation to that lifestyle. Concurrently, the relationships that we involve ourselves in, regardless of the slow deliberation we use to comfort ourselves in the moment of truth (actual decision), is subject to the indirect dieting lifestyle.

A relationship is only as strong as the sum of its parts and the nurturing that is involved (diet). The relationship, the union or connectedness of two people (romance) or more (family/friends) will either remain healthy or devolve into sickness.   They will either use growing problems as a sign that will either propel them into becoming solution-oriented or the problems will go unchecked and devolve into an imminent demise.

Today, we are just as aware of the things that are good for us as we are the things that are bad for us. However, bad habits, poor self control, low emotional I.Q., and in many cases stubbornness plague our relationships just as high fat, high cholesterol, too much sugar and little to no exercise harm our bodies.   Passive aggressive tendencies can be just as sweet and toxic to relationships as sugars and high fructose corn syrups are to our physical selves. When trust issues define how the other party in the relationship must change or re-invent themselves to meet growing emotional demands to feel individual comfort, you both become a part of high fat, high sugar diet.   These behaviors tend to slow the progress of a once healthy relationship, as it becomes fat, lazy and over-indulgent, making the relationship sick. When stubbornness (low mobility) results in romantic stagnation, the health is leeched from the relationship. The unhealthy fat takes over and affects all of the organs of the relationship body. This is the same as failing to maintain a healthy lifestyle and allowing the organs of the body to become sick. In these cases, a temporary fix is introduced to fix whichever body system(s) have come under attack. Metformin (diabetes), Paxil (depression), Lasix (high blood pressure) and et cetera.   Conversely passive aggressive behavior (stubbornness), consistent needs for reassurance (insecurities), angry outbursts as a tool of correction (feelings of sadness), and others only helps the perpetrator for a moment. However, the organs: heart (for feelings of love), eyes (for seeing worth) are getting sicker. In cases such as these, something has to be changed or removed (with precision in some cases) to correct an overly damaged situation. Regardless of how much we know about the requirements for physical and relationship health, we still get in our own way and impede our own longevity and/or success. The relationship becomes the sacrificial lamb that dies on the alter of stubbornness and insecurity. We need to wake up and save ourselves from ourselves as well as the ones that we love before we drown in a sea of our own regrets. We are then force to live with the overwhelming burning sensation within the desire for a second chance. Have you ever heard anyone say, “I wish I knew then, what I know now”?   This is the anthem of those who refused to set themselves up for the success they desired through a high fat, high sugar diet and very little exercise (effort).





3 thoughts on “The Relationship Diet

  1. You asked for feedback on twitter. I don’t think you need much. Great blog. Just keep at it. Only thing I would say is maybe keep your posts a bits shorter and snappier to hold the reader’s attention. But no need to listen to me if you’re comfortable with the length as it is. Look forward to more of your posts!

    1. Thanks Emily. I truly appreciate your taking the time to read it. I got carried away while writing “The Relationship Diet”. I was thinking of editing it to make it shorter.

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